Q&A: Wife Told Me My Son Is Not My Child?
Query by Ryan J: Wife Advised Me My Son Is Not My Youngster?
My spouse and I have only been married a yr and a bit and ‘our’ son Was born in Early October 06. Last week she told me she couldn’t do this took our son and left me. Me, unaware, thought our partnership was great and didn’t understand what she ‘couldn’t do’ this was untill, I later on recieved a TEXT message off her saying the kid she gave birth to wasn’t mine, that she was sorry but she was racked with guilt & couldn’t be with me. My son (i even now see him as that) indicates the world to me and we’d often wanted kids it was a blessing, this has genuinely has ripped my heart appropriate out.What can i do in this situation. Do i have any rights at all. Although it hurts i asked for a paternity test and that is pending the ‘other’ man. What can i do? I cannot just walk away and say oh effectively he’s not mine, thats MY Tiny BOY.
I’m on the birth certificate, I selected his him identify. Any rights?
So for dribbling on, Just…Grr.. you know how it is.
Finest answer:
Solution by latinatexas
Well it is just not your son you have to be robust you do not want this kind of romantic relationship move on and get a woman who would have your youngster and be pleased
What do you feel? Answer under!
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about 1 year ago
AWW I am SO sorry.. that really sux… u can fight it however
about 1 year ago
Ask for your money back.
about 1 year ago
She put you on the birth certificate, so in the eyes of the court he is yours. You could get a paternity test done, she may be lying to keep you away. If she won’t let you see him take her to court and I guarantee you will be allowed partial custody or vistation rights or whatever you want.
about 1 year ago
you do have rights. if you signed his birth certificate then he’s legally yours too. since you have petitioned the court for a paternity test you can also petition the court for visitation rights and or temporary custody. get a lawyer and talk to him about getting this in motion quickly.
about 1 year ago
Frist off let me tell you how sorry I am for you, this can not be easy.
Unfortunatly you do not have any rights. Even with your name on the b/c. You will just have to wait for the test to come back.
If you can, continue to have a relationship with the child. That is all you can do.
Sorry for all your going through.
about 1 year ago
wow im really sorry that happened to you. If your name is on the birth certificate you have legal rights to that child…you could take her to court for custody. If the paternity test comes out its not yours, then im not sure what a court would decide…..i believe the realy father (if he wants him) will then have the rights. Good luck to you and i hope 2007 gets better for you
about 1 year ago
First, I don’t know how it is- this is not my experience.
Second, I do understand about loving a child and the intense investment of emotions and planning for the future.
Third, YOU DO HAVE RIGHTS! Call a lawyer, what she is doing to you is cruel, and if she can do this to YOU- there maybe no stopping her from being cruel to YOUR CHILD. If I were you, seek full custody.
about 1 year ago
yes there are some legal rights you have due to the fact that the “other” father has not tried to provide any kind of support. But I would hire a lawyer or at least consult one first to make absolutely sure. Also if that’s the case and you love your wife and son, tell her that and forgive her for hiding it from you but you want to make it work.
about 1 year ago
Bless your heart! I hate that this is happening to you. I don’t understand what you mean by the paternity test is pending on the “other man”. You should legally be able to have a paternity test done immediately. In the eyes of the government, your son is your son. The “other man” has no rights until paternity test prove him as the father. If I were you, I would demand that a paternity test be done this week. If your ex (?) refuses, you should seek legal help. She also cannot legally seperate the child from you until it is proven that you are not his father. Good luck.
about 1 year ago
My best advice would be to get a paternity test. If she refuses, your name is on the birth certificate so you do have parental rights.
about 1 year ago
Sorry!
You must have rights- we have a friend who found out the same thing years ago, his wife admitted that their child was not his. She moved to Texas (we are in CA) and sued him for child support- and won!! The boy is 14 and he has been paying child support for the past 8 years because the courts say he is on the B/C. You should be able to turn it around in your favor. Good for you. Are you able to forgive your wife and go back to being a family?? Good luck.
about 1 year ago
if you love her go get her back. It takes a real man to be a father.
And if your name is on his birth certificate….you are his father.Good Luck!!!
about 1 year ago
I’m so sorry for you if you really and truly love your wife and son then you must tell her. is the baby def not yours or isn’t she sure but if your wife did come back to you you would have to think about the baby would be able to treat the baby as your own or would you treat him different because that wouldn’t not be fair on the baby it isn’t his fault hope you can work every thing out good luck xx
about 1 year ago
Oh yeah you have rights. Your name on the birth certificate and you can keep it there if you wish. You already love the boy why not keep it that way. Contact your ex and see if the two of you can work things out despite her obvious cheating(many people do). Tell her you understand but still want to be his father and work it out if you can. She could be wrong but nothing requires you to have a paternity test. I would have the test however if she refuses to allow you access to the child or refuses to consider getting back together.
about 1 year ago
Get a paternity test and talk to a lawyer.
TFTP
about 1 year ago
if your name is on the birth cert then even if it is not your kid, you have the right to a paternity test. Contact a lawyer. They can give you a free consult. That kid could be yours. so don’t just give up. If you have had dex over the past year, then there is just as good a chance that it is yours than the other guys!!! don’t let her take that child away from you if it could be yours. This is a utah web site, but they could probably re-direct you to a place near you. it is…www.ors.utah.gov
I hope that it all works out for you. It sounds like you are a great father. good luck
about 1 year ago
Sorry to hear that but you don’t have rights. A good thing is your not wasting your time with a person who don’t care for you. In time your pain will heal and you will find a new love and have a baby of your own. I no its hard but hang in there.Good luck to you!!
about 1 year ago
Go see Maury he will help you!!!
about 1 year ago
If it gets to court for a divorce, you can request a DNA test to determine legitimacy.
I commend you for taking responsibility for the boy and your determination to make sure he stays your son…regardless of the outcome.
If the father cannot be determined if he’s not yours..you can petition the court to declare you the father because you are active in his daily life like a father.
But if the father can be found and it’s not yours…you may have a fight on your hands….if the real father gives up his parental rights for the sake of the boy and your marriage….your wife should be glad you are not holding any animosity towards her and are willing to forgive.
Good luck.
about 1 year ago
If u love her and child then talk to her. She probably wants to be with you. Guilt is a strong feeling. Tell her how you feel about the child, and that you are daddy, even though you are not his father.
about 1 year ago
well im not sure about laws and all but you can get a court order to do a blood test and find out that way. if your not the father even if you are on the birth certificate i dont think there is much you can do. Just look at the case with anna nicole smith and her drama. good luck with that. I would talk to a lawyer. but be aware its not gonna be cheap. $ $ $
about 1 year ago
You do have rights! If your name is on that birth certificate then you have a standing in court. Contact a family law attorney as soon as possible and find out how the courts in your state generally rule. I know that some states consider the person on the birth certificate the father even if paternity testing determines otherwise!
I am so sorry that she has done this to you! Not all women are like that! Keep your head up and know that you do have a chance!
about 1 year ago
You have all the rights, because your name is on the birth cert.
about 1 year ago
I’m sooo sorry 2 hear about that. Until the paternity tests come back ther is really nothing u can do. I hope the best 4 u.
about 1 year ago
First off – I’m So Sorry – I couldn’t Imagine it.
You should have rights – as you said in your eyes it is ur kid
have you talked to ur ‘wife’? About everything?
Furst off if it looks like she’s getting messy, contact a lawyer and talk laws with him. I’ve had a friend who went through a similar experience many years ago. Hold in there!, Either way you are a great father! I seem to think most men would shrug there shoulders and walk away from the kid.
about 1 year ago
Get a lawyer, sweetie. Even if there is a chance that child is not biologically yours, he is still your son.
Alternatively, perhaps you may reconcile with your wife? You say she left because she was racked with guilt. If you still love her and can forgive her, then maybe you both can work on putting your family back together.
I wish the best for you. Stay strong.
about 1 year ago
If you are on the birth certificate you have rights. She can get them taken away from you if she dishes out around a thousand bucks for a lawyer who gets her a court ordered paternity test. If you had sex with her the month she got pregnant and she hasn’t gotten a paternity test proving it is the other man’s baby, there is still a chance you are the father. Do you want her back? Maybe she is deep down a good person. A bad person could live with the guilt. You may even have some rights even if she does take you to court. Right now you could go and file kidnapping charges, and the courts would probably hand your son over to you. Are you sure she wouldn’t let you see him? Some judges would see you as stable and allow you visiting rights even though you aren’t his biological father. Call a lawyer, most lawyers have free consultations where they discuss your options. Good luck to ya!
about 1 year ago
sounds to me like your wife has some issues she needs to deal with. dont forgive her she shouldve told you before you connected with this child. it all depends what state you live in. you indeed should have rights but in some states if your not the father your not the father. which really hurts you and the child because you both bonded with each other. but id take her to court and fight to have some visitations with this child. and find out if the true father knows its his child. and if she wants to be with him or what. maybe you can still be a family.
about 1 year ago
oh my gosh, that’s awful.
if you aren’t the biological father, then i’m not sure if you have any rights legally to force visitation and what not, but if i was the mom, then i would be inclined to let you see the baby and be part of his life. you have already bonded with him and that’s not something easily broken.
gosh, i can’t even imagine that pain. we just had our son in october and my husband has to go on deployment (USMC) for 6 months and i can’t even imagine his heartache to be away from our little guy.
i wish you all the best and maybe you and your wife can come to some kind of agreement.
who knows…maybe he is your biological son afterall!!!
take care.
about 1 year ago
tell her you want a dna test to find out